I must observe however that these appearances, though they may be
substantial in the estimation of those who do not know them, gradually
vanish with those, who do. Their hospitality in their own houses, and
their great attention and kindness, soon force out of sight all ideas of
uncourteousness. Their freedom also soon annihilates those of stiffness
and reserve. Their manners, though they have not the polished surface of
those which are usually attached to fashionable life, are agreeable,
when known.
There is one trait in the Quaker-manners, which runs through the whole
society, as far as I have seen in their houses, and which is worthy of
mention. The Quakers appear to be particularly gratified, when those,
who visit them, ask for what they want. Instead of considering this as
rudeness or intrusion, they esteem it as a favour done them. The
circumstance of asking, on such an occasion, is to them a proof, that
there visitors feel themselves at home. Indeed they almost always desire
a stranger who has been introduced to them "to be free." This is their
usual expression. And if he assures them that he will, and if they find
him asking for what he wishes to have, you may perceive in their
countenances the pleasure, which his conduct has given them.
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